This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Cayden Scott Wince who was born in Newark Ohio on December 12, 1994 and passed away on January 31, 2007 at the tender age of 12. We will remember and love him forever and always.
Cayden was full of life, happy, healthy, fun loving, outgoing, very athletic, ornery-rotten, quite the ladies man, and at times a bit of a class-clown. Cayden loved life and lived his to the fullest each and every day. He was always out for the underdog. His smile was as big as his heart. He was an amazing young man, who had so much to offer.
We lost our son on January 31st, 2007 to The Choking Game, also known as blackout, American dream, flatliner, space monkey, suffocation roulette, purple dragon and many others. The Choking Game, as it has come to be called, is a "game" children play by compressing a friend's chest or squeezing their neck to cut off the flow of oxygen. In the first step, the person being choked will feel light-headed due to the reduced blood flow, and lack of oxygen to the brain, causing a perceived "high". Once the pressure to the chest or neck has been lifted the surge of blood back into the brain creates a perceived "rush". In many cases, children are constricting themselves with ties and belts. When the flow of oxygen is cut off they unintentionally pass out leaving no one to loosen the "noose" they have created and save them.
Parents have no idea that their children may be partcipating in such a dangerous and deadly game. Children think of the game as risky not deadly. Kids do not understand the finality of this game. Primarily kids from the ages 9-15 are experimenting with this, but that does not exclude everyone else. Children as young as 6 and 7 have been hurt from this and adults into their late twenties have also died from the choking game.
The recent deaths and brain damage cases in the media are the result of the "game" gone terribly wrong. According to experts, a child playing this game could lose consciousness within a minute and die in as little as 2-4 minutes as the weight of their body further constricts blood and oxygen to the brain.
In most cases the children who attempt to experience the so-called high have no interest in actual drugs or alcohol because they understand the consequences involved. Many pre-teens and teens participate in this lethal game out of curiousity- not rebellion, depression or anger. The game may be played by kids who are not outwardly at risk- students who may be doing well in school, and are close with their families. They may be after the bragging rights and the popularity points of getting "high" the legal way. To many kids, The Choking Game seems like a harmless way to get a rush. Many deaths attributed to suicide by adolescents are actually self-asphyxiations and death is an unintended outcome.
Cayden loved football and baseball. He recently started wrestling. He took fourth place in his first tournament. Cayden also loved to ride his four-wheeler, go skating, and play with his paintball gun. He lived life to the fullest and brought his smile and fun where ever he went.
Forever in our hearts, even though we're apart...
We have a very special Guardian Angel...
The ongoing theme in all the letters we received from Cayden's friends and classmates was that he made everyone laugh. He was always there to cheer people up, going the extra mile to make someone feel good, and flash his beautiful smile. The outpouring affection we saw was heart-warming. The funeral home told us that by far it was the largest service they had ever seen. People waited in line up to two hours outside in frigid winter weather, making their way inside to pay their respects to Cayden. He will be forever missed. We love you Cayden.
Please join us in the fight to educate and save innocent lives.
***The website www.deadlygameschildrenplay.com is a wonderful site with the most up-to-date victims lists and educational information on The Choking Game. Also, under 'Real Stories', if you click on 'In Our OwnWords', it has our own personal experience of the horrific night we lost our son.Becoming educated on The Choking Game may just save a life, and that alone, is well worth anyones' time.
We lost Cayden due to his curiousity and lack of knowledge on this lethal activity, let's do our part and try to prevent this tragedy from happening to any other family. Thank you.
Always on our minds... / Mom
Love is stronger than death. So, I must be content to know that love is not affected by death- it doesn't end, it doesn't diminish, it doesn't change. Instead, love is immortalized and eternalized through death. And the possibility of that love ever ...
I Am So Sorry / Kira (None A Grandaughter Of A Angel )
I Am So Very Sorry For Your Of Cayden I Know Whatever I Say Won't Heal The Pain That You Are Feeling I Feel Your Pain I Am Feeling The Pain Of My Grandmother She Just Had Her Birthday The Day Before Her Birthday Was The Harder I Could Not Stop Cryin...
I am so sorry / Kira Atkinson (None but I am a Grandaughter of a angel )
I am so sorry for you're loss he look Like a really good kid I am thinking of you everyday my heart goes to u
It hasn't gotten easier. / Landa Dearing (Friend)
Everyone says the pain goes away, everyone says it gets easier. Well it hasn't. I still miss you. I miss how happy you always were and tomorrow is gonna be a hard day for a lot of people. I hope tomorrow you're watching over all of us and giving us a...
happy birthday bubby!! / Michael Music (friend)
Todays your 18th birthday!! That's crazy bub, you have no clue how much we all miss you, today is a sad day for many people, I think about you like crazy and all the memories we have had! I'm gonna get ahold of your dad to see when the next. Paintbal...
We were presented with an American Flag that was dedicated to you!
The flag was flown on a combat mission in the U.S. Army UH-60L Blackhawk Helicopter 90-26297 in the face of the enemy and bears witness to the capture, detention, and interrogation of terrorist forces threatening the freedom of the United States of America and the world. The flag was flown in Afghanistan in support of "Operation Enduring Freedom" for the men and women who lost their lives during the terrorist attacks on September 11, 2001. The flag was flown during a mission on April 10, 2007.
We were presented with the actual flag, along with a beautiful plaque including a message and picture of the flag being flown in the helicopter on the mission.
This powerful tribute that was dedicated in your memory, means so much to us. We want to send a special Thank You to Travis Buehner- Pilot In Command, Peter Birochak- CO-Pilot, David Hickman- Crew Chief, and Craig Munyan- Door Gunner. God Bless You All
In memory of Cayden Wince- Stop The Choking Game
If you would like to wear a bracelet in memory of Cayden please contact:
Lisa's cell 740-404-7928 Robby's cell 740-404-2129 Our home number 740-575-4166
We would like to thank everyone for all their support, dedication, and prayers through the most difficult time of our lives. We are blessed to have such a wonderful group of family and friends that are always right by our sides. Without all of you and the strength from God, we know we could not make it.
We would also like to thank everyone, including family, friends, and sponsors, for their contributions and donations to the Cayden Wince Memorial Scholarship Fund.
Cayden will live on, in all of our hearts, forever and always! We love you buddy!
Lifeline of Ohio
On the night of the accident we were approached by Lifeline of Ohio. Lifeline is an organization where people may donate their organs to others who are in desperate need of them. The decision to donate your organs was a very difficult one to make. It took everything your dad had inside of him to agree to donate your organs, but he knew you would have been proud to know you were able to help someone else.
We heard from Lifeline today, and they told us that you were able to save two lives. The news was very bitter-sweet for us. You were able to give "the gift of life" to two seperate people and that is a beautiful thing. Two people are able to stay here on Earth, with their families, a little bit longer because of you and that is so precious. We are so proud of you kiddo. We love you so much. You will forever be in our hearts.
Cayden Wince Memorial Scholarship Fund There has been a college scholarship fund started in memory of our son, Cayden Wince. This scholarship shall be awarded in equal shares to one male and one female graduate of Newark High School in the class of 2013. Applicants shall have at least a 2.0 Grade Point Average and be attending any degree granting two or four year college or university.
Cayden loved sports and his fellow classmates. He dreamed of going to college and playing football. Cayden's team was Michigan. Go Blue!
If anyone would like to donate to the "Cayden Wince MemorialScholarship Fund" contributions may be mailed to:
Licking County Foundation P.O. Box 4212 Newark, Ohio 43058-4212